Build Confidence for Business and Life

You’re a female entrepreneur who wants to compete at the front of the pack, who understands the value of breaking barriers, of staying relevant and of doing things first and doing them better.

No matter where you are in your business ownership journey, one thing’s for sure: You can’t do it without confidence. And once you take the steps to build that confidence, you’ll notice something else: It will spill over into other parts of your life, enriching all of your interactions and relationships.

I know what you’re thinking. Confidence doesn’t just happen. Some people are born with it, whilst others are dumped into situations where they have to develop it…or else.

All of that is true, to an extent; however, there’s a bigger truth. Self-confidence can be developed through steps that you initiate on your own. Confidence doesn’t have to be the result of good genes or ‘trial by fire’ type situations. You can create it for yourself, and I’m about to tell you how.

Self-Created Self-Confidence

You can face your fears and conquer them (all under the admiring gaze of those who mean the most to your business and life) simply by increasing your confidence.

Too often, women who suffer from low self-confidence assume they will be plagued with it for their entire lives, when in fact, they can turn it entirely around.

Here are steps you can take every day to increase your own level of confidence:

  • Swear Off Negativity. Only give your attention to positive things. Identify those people around you who are highly optimistic and who encourage you. Spend more time with them. Start saying NO to negative people and distance yourself from them. Work on seeing the positive aspects of every situation, no matter how undesirable. Do this often enough, in every possible circumstance, and it will become as natural as a reflex. You’ll feel more confident because you’ll feel good.
  • Make Eye Contact. This is a small thing that can have a huge impact on your interactions, the impressions you make and the confidence you feel. When people know that you’re truly listening to them (and that you’re spellbound by what they have to say), they will reflect all that positivity right back at you. You’ll begin to appreciate person-to-person interactions because of the good feelings they evoke.
  • Focus on Your Best Features. This goes for inside AND out. What are your most appealing personality traits? (Go ahead and ask your friends, family and business associates.) What are your most attractive physical traits? Work to highlight them. Now, stop focussing on those things you don’t like about yourself and instead showcase your best qualities at all times and in all situations. Before you know it, they will become your defining traits (along with a new level of self-confidence).
  • Get it Together. There’s nothing worse for your confidence than the feeling that you’re unprepared. You’ve been there: A business meeting after you haven’t read the agenda, or a speaking engagement for which you haven’t rehearsed. Be prepared. Know what you will say and practice it. This will give you the mind space to respond intelligently to impromptu questions, instead of being distracted by your basic responsibilities.
  • Fake It. This is not about being disingenuous. Instead, it’s about standing tall, making eye contact, speaking clearly, walking with self-assurance…even when you don’t feel like it. Do this every day, at every opportunity, and your body language will send messages to your brain, ultimately convincing it that you’re feeling confident. Soon, your brain will catch on and you’ll feel all those things you’re portraying.
  • Wear Clothing that Makes you Feel Good. A good friend of mine told me that I should go through my closet and get rid of anything that doesn’t make me feel fabulous. After following her advice, my wardrobe is much smaller, but I feel confident every day, ready for interactions and relationship-building. I suggest you try this, too.
  • Take Action. Under-confident people overthink their choices. They second-guess their abilities and they back away from challenges, assuming failure. The only way to break this cycle is to take leaps and face your fears. After just a few times, you’ll find that you’re feeling not only comfortable, but addicted to the high that comes from impressing yourself. Confidence is a certain side-effect.

I feel confident that all these pieces of advice will help you to increase your level of confidence, so that you can turn your dreams into reality.

Need more support? Or would you like to talk to other female business owners about their suggestions for building self-confidence? Then look into the Secret Women’s Business Academy, your online resource for starting and growing your own business. You can start getting paid the money you deserve, doing what you love, all whilst being part of a community of women supporting women. See you there!