Love You, for Better Leadership

Leadership is not for the weak of heart. It’s not for those who will allow others’ views to infiltrate or compromise their own. And it’s not for those who feel under-confident in their own abilities, or who look to others for approval for every move.

In short, leadership is not for followers.

Leadership is for those who have respect for others and for themselves, and it’s for people who care enough about themselves to make the types of decisions that will benefit everyone involved…including themselves. It’s for people who have faith in their own ideas and convictions, and assign enough value to those things to want to see them come to fruition.

Does this mean you must be born with high self-esteem and outrageous self-love in order to be a great leader?


In fact, these things can be developed, particularly when you know what’s required and have the right advice for bringing these things to life.

Here are the ways in which getting to know and love yourself will help to enhance your leadership abilities:

  • A self-confident person does not feel threatened by others’ great ideas, or by their successes. There’s a saying that the most confident, supportive women don’t degrade each other — instead, they all straighten each others’ crowns. When you have a healthy sense of self-love and a positive self image, you will not be preoccupied with levelling, or tearing others down. You will focus on the task at hand and forge your own, unique way.
  • A leader who loves herself wants others to succeed — particularly her subordinates. If you struggle with low self-esteem, you will be forever fearful of those under you surpassing your level of success. If you have a healthy level of self-esteem, you will see their successes as testaments to your leadership abilities.
  • A leader who loves herself will not feel compelled to control people; she will, however lead by example because she truly believes that the choices she makes are good ones.
  • Leaders with poor self-esteem exist and work in a state of constant fear. They are afraid that the decisions they make won’t be the right ones. They worry that people will not approve of their choices. They fear change. They are certain that, at any time, their leadership roles could be stripped away and given to someone more qualified. Whereas a self-confident leader who loves what she does (and loves the way she does it) will make solid decisions, will be happy to defend those decisions when challenged and will easily convince others through her own level of conviction.
  • Leaders who love themselves have the best-qualified teams. They have no qualms about hiring people who might outshine them, because they’re focussed on the achievement of company-wide goals, rather than on spotlighting their own personal achievements.
  • Those leaders who know themselves well (strengths, weaknesses, preferences, needs) make the best decisions because they can predict outcomes most accurately. They have no aversion to a variety of successes (i.e. the ‘unknown’), and will choose the most direct path for reaching all of them.
  • Self-confident leaders who love themselves know where they’re headed. They have goals, and will surround themselves with people who are as successful (or ideally, more successful) than themselves. They welcome the challenge and readily learn from those who are highly accomplished.

Do you value yourself as a human being? Are you proud of your achievements, your talents…proud of YOU?

When you take pride in the work you put forth and the differences you make in people’s lives, you become a more effective leader. Those who look up to you will see the confidence you exude and the respect you have for yourself. They will want that, too, and choose to follow you. In fact, they will go out of their ways to follow you.

And that, my friends, is the gateway to mad leadership skills.

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Have a beautiful day, beautiful you.