Working on Yourself – The Biggest Gift you can Give to Others

How much time have you dedicated to yourself this year?

How much effort have you invested in your education, your relationships, your gratefulness, your empathy…your happiness?

If you want to serve others better, to enhance your personal life and your business, then the place to start is with YOU. There’s no better gift you can give yourself or the people with whom you interact.

We can all use a bit of improvement, and here’s the thing: the more time we invest in improving ourselves, the happier and more successful we’ll be. There’s no better investment, really.

So how can you get started with building YOU? Here are some points of inspiration and how you can expect each one to improve your life and others’:

  • Make human connections every day.
    This could be having lunch with a friend, showing a new employee around the office or smiling at a stranger in the park. Avoid spending too much time alone (except for “introvert recharge”). Nurture relationships and take opportunities to start new ones. Humans are social creatures, and when we recognise and nurture that need, we will seem more approachable and available to those who need us. This is like a muscle—one that must be used in order to stay strong. Develop a deeply human persona, and clients will be attracted to that and will choose to contact you.
  • Educate yourself. What specific type of education will further your career? And more importantly, what do you want to learn about? Expanding your mind not only enhances your CV, it improves your self-esteem and confidence levels. This doesn’t always mean going back to university; sometimes it simply means committing to reading on a more regular basis, or attending seminars to work on YOU. Before you know it, you’ll have a better-prepared, more self-assured package to offer to those you serve.
  • Develop your listening skills. What body language cues tell you that people are in distress? Or that they’re happy, content or angry? Obtain the training to recognise verbal and non-verbal cues, and you’ll be the person (and the brand) that people need…right now. This is a skill that must be developed and advanced with training and practice. It’s actually what the best psychics and salespeople use, and the first time you experience success with it, you’ll know why.
  • Ditch the tough-guy act. As we’ve discussed in the past, there’s no reason for us to cling to the outdated idea that masculine traits are best for business—when in fact, feminine traits like compassion and creativity are what our teams are craving from their leaders. You don’t have to be a woman to exercise feminine leadership traits; nor do you need to solely rely on these alone. Allow yourself to connect without lording over people. Emulate successful female leaders around you. And now watch how your magnetism—and your influence in others’ lives—grow.
  • Demonstrate gratefulness every day. Is the sun shining? Express gratitude. Is it raining? Find a reason to be happy about that. Did someone on your team do something great for your brand? Show them how much you appreciate their efforts. Gratefulness is one of those things that runs full-circle: Grateful people tend to be more appreciated by their peers, co-workers and subordinates. Be grateful for all things, in an effort to enhance your own happiness, but also for the sake of others’ emulation of it.
  • Forgive yourself. It can be difficult to move past others’ wrongdoings if you haven’t forgiven yourself for your own. If you blew a project, admit what happened to your team and move forward…as a team. When you mess up, treat yourself with the same compassion you would want others to treat you, and demonstrate that same consideration toward team members when they make mistakes. Your compassion will be infectious, and soon your entire team will be working together, instead of placing blame.
  • Choose happiness. There’s a notion running rampant that the happiest people are those who have the most money, or who have been the luckiest in life—when in fact, the happiest people are those who choose happiness, every day. When you choose happiness, you will be a joy to all those who come in contact with you. People will want more of that, and will make choices that put them in your path. What could be better for your business than that?

Every one of us has strengths and weaknesses that will contribute to our own unique plans for personal development. However, one thing is for sure: the best way to get started is to get started.

Have a beautiful day, beautiful you.